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JFunk's avatar

It’s sickening. And what’s going on in therapist spaces is truly disturbing: with almost daily examples of antisemitism by the therapist community and supported by the institutions. God forbid anyone raise the issue of antisemitism, if you do yget dog-piled and banned in most of those spaces.

But hey ..l’m a single GenX proud Zionist woman if you’re looking…

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Steven Karras's avatar

Thank you for that!

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Sherylgi's avatar

During my gig as an LCSW in a non profit Medicaid facility I refused working with a Jew Hater. I politely told her that I couldn’t work her.

*Dating* a keffiah wearing watermelon Jewish poseur? Gah

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Gordzilla's avatar

As someone who has dealt with severe, almost debilitating OCD and anxiety, I value mental health treatment, but the therapeutic community is host to a lot of unmitigated nonsense and people who probably shouldn't be treating anyone else.

Also, I'm a conservative gentile Christian, and I would never date an anti semite or Israel hater. At best, it's a sign of a morally confused person; at worst it's evidence one is morally corrupt.

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Steven Karras's avatar

Thank you for weighing in. Dating any kind of hater isn’t good for anyone

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Not so young anymore.'s avatar

There is nothing in good taste about this pro Hamas crowd. They will appropriate anything for their sick lies.

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None's avatar

This was very well written. I’m not Jewish but I fully and unconditionally support the Jewish people and Israel. That young woman is missing out on a very eloquent and admirable man. Find someone worthy of you. She’s a sad and performative little person with no understanding of true decency. And, as someone who spent the majority of my life in the last century and have seen and done a few things, you’re too good for her.

As one of the many, many people out there who treasure the contributions Jews have made to our society, thank you for persisting and not letting the idiots get to you. It may not seem like it, but we’ve got your back.

And we’re not going anywhere.

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Steven Karras's avatar

Thank you. I was just responding to her sign and profile transformation …bigger fish to fry—so to speak. Not lamenting anything missed:) thank you for your words.

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Marina Stern's avatar

I hear you. Well articulated. I am struggling as well with all of this. Can't I want ALL people to be treated with humanity and dignity without being pro Hamas or anti Zionist? Is it possible to protect Jewish interests without decimating Palestinians? Can Palestinians and Jews coexist successfully? Can I have my identity without a heavy cloud of increasing shame? Growing up in Iran, I learned to be a "Crypto-Jew." In these times, it still suits me, but that doesn't resolve the struggle. It only allows me to avoid the conflict.

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Steven Karras's avatar

Amen ! Thanks dear cousin

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Steven Karras's avatar

Gah is right

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J. Allen's avatar

This is fantastic! As a guy who lives in Portland and is trying to date, I find it disturbing how political everything and everyone is all the time. The pro-Palestinian brain rot in particular because these people most often don’t what TF they are talking about! But also maybe we all should stop caring so much about our political opinions? https://getbettersoon.substack.com/p/well-you-know-thats-just-like-uh

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Steven Karras's avatar

Thank you. I agree with everything you wrote. Including “the fuck”;) Appreciate the comment!

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Debi Winston Buzil's avatar

Brilliant well informed commentary. Many thanks SK. I will be sharing this!

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Steven Karras's avatar

thanks debi

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Elaine's avatar

She is showing her ignorance of Judaism and sounds like she is the “wicked” child who sat at the Seder table. Personally, since October 7, I have been trying to date veterans and conservatives. They seem to understand Zionism.

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Steven Karras's avatar

I was thinking the exact same thing about that child at the Seder table. Thank you for chiming in, Elaine.

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Sharone marck's avatar

Head of nail, meet hammer. Thine carpenter’s name is Steve Karras

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Steven Karras's avatar

Hey thanks Mrs Marck

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Sharon Katz's avatar

I'll date you Steve 😉

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Steven Karras's avatar

Thanks!

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Alan, aka DudeInMinnetonka's avatar

I insured I'd get no dates by listing my Zionist identity in a personal ad pre-war, did you ever send a zesty reply?

I recently got a reply to my other ad which stated I would not date / procreate with the jabbed though in that they are not jabbed/clot shotted but of course when I replied promptly I have not heard back for a day 🤦

This article isshowing 23 comments but I'm only able to see the top two it seems substack did a mild redesign recently, still can't figure out how to see comments on the videos/reels.

Those who shrug off anti-semitism will be receiving far more anti-crucifixionism guarandamnteed... I've had hecklers here on substack shrug off their Christian affinity as they were haranguing me for Israel's non-existent bad deeds, the level of lack of awareness is breathtaking.

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Benj W's avatar

Beautifully said, Steven.

It honestly kills me inside to think that those people, just a couple of years ago, I would have considered to be my people and that they actually think and believe these things. Well, obviously they are not mine nor our people. And I’m a bit embarrassed at my own naïveté as many other people seemed to have seen this already. But man, the fact that these people represent themselves as Jews just to gain enough credibility to bring down the Jewish people as a whole? They have probably done more than any other group to contribute to today’s antisemitism.

The split is irrevocable and I implore them to cease referring to themselves as Jews. They do not have what it takes to be Jewish. They are not one of us. They are ashamed of us because the people they want to be their friends told them they should be.

We Jews are in another historical flare up of existential antisemitism and we have to circle the wagons and fight like hell. Together. Again.

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Steven Karras's avatar

You’re magnificent on and off the fairway and in the rough. Hybrids and all. Thanks for that Benjy

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April's avatar

Well I think you’re awesome. I’m a not as of now Jewish well published Zionist who may be Jewish on my dad’s side. Considering conversion. And I’d be very happy to run into you.

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Steven Karras's avatar

hey you're jewISH

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Dan Mintz's avatar

Stevie, you have a gift. BTW, I met Jill on JDate almost 20 years ago. Times in San Diego seemed to be simpler then. I knew she was the “One” after our 1st date. We started at a restaurant called Jack’s (no longer there). We ended at Humphrey’s, experiencing a Steely Dan tribute band called “The Steely Damned.” I felt so comfortable with Jill that she let me chug her large glass of beer because I was so thirsty! I must admit that in between Jack’s & Humphrey’s, I couldn’t hold back and gave her a big kiss on the lips, I might add. One of the best parts of that kiss is that she let me do it! I was in heaven!!! It was a good date 🥹

I proposed 7 months later in La Jolla on the beach with my knee planted on the rocks, near the sand. I didn’t ask her if she would marry me, I asked her if she would spend the rest of her life with me.

We were married in La Jolla at La Valencia, overlooking the Cove of the Pacific Ocean 🌊, on Sunday March 30th. It was my parents’ 45th wedding anniversary.

So, Steven Karras, sometimes dating does work. The great thing is that Jill picked me, after she showed her father my profile. He somehow approved. I was lucky 🍀.

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Brian Kordansky's avatar

This hit. Living and dating in an area with fewer single Jews, but also fewer outright anti-semites. I am actively working for Jewish self-determination and my activities are disclosed at the front end of a dating conversation. The response I get is a gate to accessing my life and time.

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